Still
Waiting To Be Matched
I apologize that our updates
have been few and far between lately. There are a few reasons for that, but
mainly when you are waiting to be matched with a birth mom, there isn’t much to
report. We just simply wait.
Over the past couple of months,
we have had several potential situations presented to us. We put a lot of
thought and prayer as a family into each of these situations. Unfortunately, we
have chosen to pass on being presented to several birth moms for various
reasons. So far, we have only chosen to be presented to two birth moms (meaning
the birth mom looks over the profile book about our family along with other
families books to help her decide which family to choose). Both of the birth
moms that we presented to decided to keep their baby in the end.
Recently, I have started to
become really anxious about the whole process. As you wait, you wonder things
like: Will we come across a situation that it is actually one we can
realistically handle and nurture? Will we ever be matched? Can we afford this?
Will the “right” situation for our family come along?
Without getting into too many
details (because the situation for each birth mom is private), drugs seem to be
a common factor in the majority of these situations. I share this example
because it’s a pretty common and well-known example in the adoption world. In
an open adoption, which is what we would like, the birth mother would hopefully
be a part of our lives if they choose to be. We, however, are not willing to
have Jacob and the baby be around a birth mom (or anyone for that matter) who
is under the influence of drugs. If the birth mom is in and out of jail, that
is another factor that would need to be explained to the kids. Because we have
more than ourselves to worry about, we are hesitant when presented with these
situations. We always have to think in the long term. How will this choice
affect our family in the long run? This may offend people, but this is our
reality. Either God needs to open our hearts to situations we don’t feel we can
take on, or we just have to wait for potentially a very long time until we are
presented with a situation that feels “right.” I was recently told that Ryan
and I should open our heart to a drug-exposed child. The conversation was long,
but they went on to say in a nutshell that if I’m not able to have a baby, then
I should be open to any situation presented to me. Maybe that is true, however,
just because I can’t have a baby doesn’t mean that my family isn’t deserving of
a situation that feels right for each of us (drug exposed or not). I know that God already has this baby picked
out for us. Ryan, Jacob, and I will continue to practice patience and faith
until we meet our little one. As always, we appreciate your support, kind
words, and encouragement.
Below is a picture of
the FINISHED puzzle!
I’m still in shock that you all
helped us raise over $10,000.
You will never
know how much your generosity will forever mean to us.
